Board Thread:Questions and Answers/@comment-25951143-20150101110046/@comment-26939936-20160105165159

Martialmaniac wrote: Would you stop jumping to conclusions? You are being pretty irritating in your quest to prove anyone else wrong. Doesn't the phrase "Alluka is a boy who identify herself as female" sound grammatically incorrect in your head? Maybe I wasn't trying to reject what I said I had accepted, simply to use a pronoun that seemed better suited to the contest. Since this is not Alluka's article, and I'm not insulting the character - a fictional character - I think it should be ok if I use the pronoun that expresses more clearly what I mean. Simply, since I said "boy" before, "himself" sounded better, due to "as female" coming afterwards. Had Alluka been the subject of the next sentence, I would have said "she", but this is mere formalism.

I didn't think it could be perceived in such an offensive way, especially since I had just said I consider Alluka female. Do you need to act all high and mighty to the point you have to pick on the slightest mistake despite everything else I said? Sorry, I'm not trying to instigate an argument. As I've already responded to Pigzillion who had the same complaint, I won't repeat myself. If it comes off as if I'm trying to act high and mighty, I apologize, but that isn't what I'm doing! It's pretty clear that I care immensely about this topic. When I see comments like those, I don't immediately jump up and say "yes!! they made a mistake!!" I have to take a minute to once again confront the fact that no matter how hard we try, it's not going to change what has been embedded in our culture overnight. We want people to understand so maybe eventually all identities are perceived as 'valid' and we don't have to constantly justify them. In a thread about gender, where people have already displayed harmful thoughts, mistakes will sometimes come off as intentional because this stuff has been explained so many times. In a thread about gender, we should feel safe enough to call out wrong pronouns.

I apologize if my comments are too lengthy; I just want my words to be understood.

Both Alluka and Nanika are fascinating characters, and I'm thankful to be able to discuss something important within a story I love.