Board Thread:Questions and Answers/@comment-25951143-20150101110046/@comment-26871067-20160930004509

SuprK1 wrote: It is not a part of their identity that they can't make go away. It may be part of their identity, in the sense that it's something that they think, and anything that they think is part of them, but it is something that they think that they can change.

By saying I don't like the idea, I'm saying that I don't like that they think that, not that I don't like them.

Transphobia is not rooted in ignorance. I realize that people are who they are, and thinking that they are someone/thing else(no offense intended by the thing, I'm just saying that because someone else would be a different person, so something different about them is what I'm saying), is not a reasonable thing to think.

And I have as much a place as you. My being transphobic is not interfering with my part in the conversation. My disliking the idea will not make me deny that it happens. I am telling you right now that I am transgender and me being transgender is an undeniable and indelible part of me as a human being.

I cannot change this.

I can live a lie, the way a gay man can marry a woman and have a family and pretend to be straight his entire life, but it will not make him not gay. I can say "I'm going to try really hard to be a woman", and I can try really hard, but it will not make me a woman. It will never make me a woman.

If I had not come out and started living my life as a man, I would have killed myself. I say that with no exaggeration or hyperbole. I would be dead. I went through all the denial steps, I went through everything. "You're just a lesbian, you're just confused, you're a kid". Of course it didn't work. It would never work, it will never work, I cannot be "fixed", nor can I be "brought back to my senses". I am a man.

I could not change who I was any more than a black woman could stop being black.