User blog comment:Martialmaniac/Enough with Alluka!/@comment-26139711-20150223200114

Okay I'm gonna try and be polite here because I really do hate gender arguments but as a nonbinary person a lot of the things you have said here have made me uncomfortable.

" It is not about how he feels about it, he is so young he probably has no clue as to what is sexuality, for us it is important to state what his gender really is."

Gender has nothing to do with sexuality. It's a major issue when people equate the two, as trans people are often oversexualised because of their transness. Secondly, your statement "what his gender really is" is actually a rather transphobic thing to say (to say that a trans person is actually the gender they were assigned at birth is offensive) and is also counterproductive to the whole "Alluka's gender is debatable" thing as you are otherwise stating that Alluka is definitely male.

Honestly, I wholeheartedly believe that Alluka is a (trans) girl, her only family member who isn't abusive towards her, Killua, refers to her as a girl, and as his little sister.

But, even though it isnt the most desireable outcome in my opinion, I believe the simplest solution is to, just like Neferpitou, use singular they/them pronouns for Alluka's wiki page and list her gender as "Unknown" to avoid major gender debate. (though I do agree with they/them pronouns for Pitou so it isn't quite the same)

I believe that they/them pronouns, at this moment, appear the most 'logical' when you consider the whole "gender ambiguity" section on Alluka's article. To say that Alluka's gender is ambiguous, but then to list that she is male in her infobox doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me, and like i said, you already have Neferpitou's gender listed as unknown, is it really so hard to do the same for Alluka.

I'd also like to briefly address your last paragraph as it does feel like you are invalidating trans people's feelings by telling people that something isn't transphobic. But you said in the same paragraph that Alluka is ""biologically male"" but is "acting like a girl" when no one can really "act like a girl". I'd elaborate more but I have to cut this short because it is horrendously late/early here.

I do hope you listen to what I'm saying as this does mean a lot to me, and i hope I didn't come off as rude because I am trying to be polite but it is very late and I may not have expressed this well. Anyway, goodnight/day/afternoon/whatever.

(also it may have been a better idea if i'd said some of this on the talk page now that i think about it but it's too late for me to change anything I apologise)